Everything we do, we try to give it 100%.
‘I’m going to get fit, I really want to push myself’.
‘I’ve got so much on at work, I just need to make sure I get XYZ done for Joe Bloggs’.
‘I’m doing really well with my food, I just need to keep it up and I know I’ll feel better’.
‘I’ve got to pick the kids up and drop them off at swimming, then dancing, then parties, then make the dinner, clean the house…….’.
‘I’m supposed to be meeting a friend for dinner on Saturday, but I’ve also said I will…’.
YOU ARE RUNNING ON FUMES.
If you keep trying to give yourself to everyone and everything in your life, you’re going to spread yourself far too thin and crash. It’s just not possible. Then what happens? You get frustrated at yourself for not doing something well enough. You put yourself down. You get anxious, frustrated and feel overwhelmed.
We can not be everything to everyone. We shouldn’t forget to take care of ourselves – what you need to decide is where to focus your energy.
A year ago, I set out to be a PT with so many ideas of what I wanted to do. I wanted to write a blog every month, build a client base and an online platform, do additional qualifications so I could specialise and maintain a healthy work-life balance.
Then something happened. I got clients (a lot in a short space of time). I started additional qualifications. I worked on my social media and now spend most of my waking hours listening to podcasts, reading books and educating myself around the world of health and fitness. A month ago, I made the choice to become a female only trainer, after working through a pre and post natal qualification and realising how much the female body and the relationship between hormones and exercise interested me.
I haven’t written a blog in 2019. This is my first one… and I’m OK with that.
For about 6 months, I barely saw my friends or spent quality time with my husband, they were all OK with that because they knew I was working hard and loving every second.
I chose how to distribute my time and didn’t beat myself up for sacrificing other areas. The thing is, if you try to focus your energy on EVERYTHING, it doesn’t work.
Make a list. It sounds like such a simple solution, but sometimes grabbing a pen and paper and having something tangible in front of you to look at helps you to see things more clearly. Whats the most important thing to you right now. Do you need to get your mental health in check or work on your nutrition? Is your exercise more of a priority, or do you really want to focus on your career.
Sometimes two things work in sync, for example exercise can aid in mental health, or help you better focus on your nutrition, but only if you’re not pushing too hard. Stop beating yourself up and being so self-deprecating. The only person putting so much expectation on you is you. Every day is an opportunity, to become stronger, fitter, healthier and happier. Don’t let the opportunity pass you by. Get focus, gain perspective and choose where to channel your energy, but most importantly, don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it!